When a person comes to coaching they often expect the past must be forgotten in order to accomplish a goal or realize a dream. Yet a lifetime of experiences becomes invaluable treasure in the coaching process.
Songwriter Leonard Cohen gave us these lines in the song Anthem: ”There is a crack, a crack in everything…that’s how the light comes in.”
Leonardo da Vinci wrote: “Look into cracks in walls until you see whole worlds pouring out of them.”
Author Julia Cameron emphasizes the necessary fuel and flow of creativity in this statement: “Write in the cracks and crevices of your life.”
Wabi Sabi is the Japanese aesthetic and philosophy that states there is immense beauty in imperfection, impermanence and simplicity.
Here then, in the desire for wholeness, lies paradox. The brain and the heart collaborate with grace. Beauty equals imperfection. Creativity may require not regular hours but whatever one can glean from a busy life full of other demanding loves. The light that guides you and heals you appears from the midst of a wildly varied and unpredictable life.
A full life, an expansive life, is very often found in the smallest details and hidden places. Coaching encourages you to be curious, to stare and wait for the gifts that will, in time, emerge.
Embracing all aspects of self (and others) is a wisdom of wholeness. It is here that coaching begins. No piece of your self can go missing without it being felt as a dissonance, an emptiness, a pull of the heart or mind. Reeling in the strengths and gifts from your past, and the lessons learned, provides a sturdy foundation that can be used in the future. Once your coaching sessions are over, you can now coach yourself from these re-created, remembered strengths.
And like all things that make life worthwhile, it takes practice. I played the cello from the age of eleven until sixteen. I intend to play again, to hear imperfect, beautiful music float up around me. This will most likely happen at some undetermined and surprising age, after incredible amounts of practice.
After many decades I still remember the curves of the cello in my hands, the countless wrong notes, and the dreaded try-outs. Then there were those moments when the cello sang for me. Nothing is lost, or gone to waste when embracing your wholeness, with all its ups and downs. Out of that embrace comes a powerful vitality that inspires and motivates not only you, but also those around you. It's like beautiful music. Everyone that hears it is moved.
Common Thread Coaching
Nancy G. Shapiro